Thursday, July 30, 2020

Getting Laid Off from My Six-Figure Job Was Exactly What I Needed

Getting Laid Off from My Six-Figure Job Was Exactly What I Needed I sat down in the harshly lit conference room and slid his birthday present across the table. It was September 29, 2011â€"my bosss birthday. And it was less than a month before my 30th birthday. It was also the day I lost my job. My boss, his  boss, and a kind woman from human resources were sitting on the other side of the large, meticulously polished conference table. My boss shook his head and a frown materialized on his face. I knew it wasnt good news, but my first thought was, It really sucks for him that he has to fire me on his birthday. Weve eliminated your position with the latest round of cuts. This change is effective immediately, my boss said. And thats when everything changed. Seven months after Joshua walked away from his job, I was laid off with no noticeâ€"blind-sided after working my ass off for that corporation. Seven years and seven promotions later, I was living the corporate dreamâ€"and then it was over in an instant. Do you have any additional questions before HR goes over the details with you? No, I didnt have any additional questions. I just sat there and thought, This is the best thing that could have happened to me. It was as if a gigantic weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I knew it was time for me to move on, and this was the nudge I needed to jump off Corporate Americas cliff umm, I mean ladder. It was the nudge I needed to focus my time on the important things in lifeâ€"my health, my relationships, my growth as an individual, and contributing to other people in meaningful ways. Yes, this is the drastic change I neededâ€"a change I hadnt been willing to make on my own. Thankfully, my gradual transition into minimalism these past two years has allowed me to buy less stuff, spend less money, cut most of my bills, payoff most of my debt, save a little cash, and live a more meaningful life with less stuff. Sure, with my job gone, Ill still need to make other cutbacksâ€"I contacted a new realtor to sell my condo, and Im in the process of selling my carâ€"but none of that matters, because Im free! Adding value to other peoples lives has been my passion for as long as I can remember. Adding value was the thing I enjoyed most about my corporate careerâ€"I led and managed a large team of people, and I enjoyed coaching and mentoring those people more than anything else at that job. Unfortunately, a lot of things occurred in the corporate world that prevented me from allocating most my time to adding value to those people. Thanks to my minimalist lifestyle, Ill be able to avoid finding another 70-hour-per-week corporate job, opting instead for a mission I enjoy. At this point, I only need to make enough money to pay for  necessitiesâ€"rent, food, utilities, insuranceâ€"which means Ill work to earn a living, no longer living just to work. Now Ill have more time for the people I love, as well, which has been a huge struggle for me ever since I started my corporate climb. As I advanced my career and traversed the corporate ladder, I often worked the equivilant of two work weeks in a single week and lost track of family and close friends in the process because I started feeling like my job was more important than my relationships. Sadly, I thought they would understand why I wasnt around as much; and some of them did understand, but it didnt feel goodâ€"it just didnt feel right. We cant just brush off our friends and family. And Im not going to anymore. Moreover, living the corporate life was often a great excuse to let my diet go (Ill just grab a quick snack before the meeting!). It was also a great excuse to skip daily exercise (Im just too busy to exercise today!) Those bullshit excuses are gone now, and Im committed to living a healthier life, one in which Im accountable for and focused on my own diet and exercise. Im not going to lie, though: I still have that joyfear feeling. What if I fail? What if people dont respect me as much? What if, what if, what if? To my fears, I say: What if I never got the chance to live a meaningful lifeâ€"stuck instead in the tedium of someone elses template. Thats the scariest thought of all! For me, getting laid off was the nudge I needed to get the balance back in my life. For those of you who may be facing a similar situation, you might be looking for advice. Well, I dont have all the answers. But what I do have is my commitment to add value whenever I can. So feel free to tweet me your comments, questions, or cynical remarks. Ill answer to the best of my ability. Subscribe to The Minimalists via email.